Define: Sexpectation !

*All comments are welcome*

Life
Im always @ odd with myself...what i put together the night before, might not be the same come morning...
Im comfortable with myself until i start challengeing myself...it makes me stronger, but sometimes my other side doesnt want to go through the motions...
I try not to beat myself up when life deals a bad hand...i am a man, livin on a foriegn land, born with a copper tan, eatin out of store cans...
It's been a long time, I shouldnt have left you...without a strong piece to vibe to... LET'S GET IT !!!

STAY TUNED*

Child Parenting vs. Teen Parenting pt.7

Child Parenting vs. Teen Parenting pt.7

Thought and language, and the way we communicate with our children…

If we talk to our children as if they are our siblings at an early age, then you can

Be sure that when they become a teenager, they will feel they are on the same level

As you…that’s when the disrespect comes in.

Have you ever been in a supermarket and watch a little child disrespect his or her parent ?

Interesting enough, but the parent might feel embarrassed to scold the child for being

Unruly after repeated attempts to get the child to behave.

How about those young girls at the age of 11, who just start smelling themselves, as

We old school parents put it. We call them sassy, always talking back, and swear they

Know everything. When a parent allows this to continue, that’s when the problem evolves

When they become a teenager.

Child Parenting vs. Teen Parenting pt.6…stay in a child’s place

Child Parenting vs. Teen Parenting pt.6…stay in a child’s place

Here we a have a discussion between two adults in a home, a child’s mother and her brother…

The child happens to be in the dining room when the conversation takes place. The conversation

Is about the concern she has about her brother’s disrespect. The conversation gets heated, and in

The middle of the conversation, the child (which is only 11 years of age) interjects with her opinion,

The brother says; “stay in a child’s place”. The mother tells her brother; “she can say what she likes”.

What’s wrong or right with this picture???

Here is another conversation that takes place in the mother’s bedroom on the phone with her significant

Other, her son happens to be in the room. She goes on having an intimate conversation about what they

 are going to do to each other when they get together. She thinks her son is not paying attention because

his is sitting on the floor, playing with his toys. Her son says, (while she is on the phone) “mommy, what’s

a 69 ?....what is wrong or right with this picture ???

I came up in a household to where, when two adults are having a conversation, the child must leave the

Room. It almost seems like rules of old are extinct, and parents of today are wondering why their children

Are growing up so fast, or why they have such a filthy mouth, and not have respect for their parents.

Who’s the parent and who’s the child? Furthermore, is it necessary for a parent to bash the other parent,

in front of the child when the relationship is over? How will that help them when it is their turn in pursuing

a fruitful relationship???

Help me Overstand*

Child Parenting vs. Teen Parenting pt.3

Child parenting vs. Teen Parenting pt.3

Our children are not perfect, and they will make mistakes, its part of growing up, we adults know because we walked that same path. Our job going forward is to remind them "I will support you, but I am still Boss, and I DEMAND RESPECT.

It is clear that when your child reaches a certain age, they can become more to mange or control. It becomes more psychological.

 We as parents have to talk, convince, encourage, and support more. Reason; the child through their first 12 years of learning, has now developed a personality from the environment they come from, and whatever they learned in that household, will be manifested in real life.

As for the parent, if the parent is in the household, but plays an invisible roll to the child, psychologically it can affect the child’s growth process. In some instances we watch a child blossom like a rose from concrete, meaning no matter what negative forces are around that child, they are determined to succeed regardless of the circumstances.

To many parents are bombarded with other life’s struggles, and to the child, they feel either neglected, or abandon.

Once the child becomes a tween, they are very open to influences all across the board, whether positive or negative. The sad part is, today’s society has a lot of negative influences that suck the spirit right out of our children. That being said, it is even more important for the parent to stay even more closer to the child because of these outside negative influences, like; gangs, drugs, prostitution, cults, or any crime or activity that robs their soul, and destroys their bodies.

The first 10 years are more on a nurturing standpoint, the early learning stages where parents teach them about themselves, respect for others, unselfishness, the importance of education, self control, and good hygiene. Installed properly at these early stages, when they reach the tween stage, the process in the development for learning will be a little easier because in their early stages, they complied with positive teachings that their parents work hard to install.

Lets say now the parent has not accomplished this in the early stages, what happens now is the parent has extra on their plate to teach, because now they have to go over the teachings of the first stages, and try to teach them in their later years, which could become problematic, especially when the child was not introduced to good behavior to begin with.

Child Parenting vs. Teen parenting part 4.

Child Parenting vs. Teen parenting part 4.

Following instructions...
we all know as being a parent, having a teen disobeying a direct order, and not following instructions, is far worst than a young child...reason is because in most cases, the young child is still in learning & comprehension mode. Just to keep it clear, the ages are 2-10 vs.10-18... that being said, let me give you a scenario;

This is in the house, mom tells her two daughters, not to go downstairs in the basement because they are painting, (keep in mind, one daughter is 5, the other is 15)
On two separate attempts, the girls go downstairs anyway. They both were reprimanded, but the 15 year old got the worst, reason being, she disobeyed a direct order, whereas the 5 year old needed this order to be emphasized again about disobeying her mothers wishes.

At the end of the day its all about respecting your parents wishes... my mom can still ask me to do her a favor like taking out the trash, when i visit her house, and it is done without thought. That comes from respect, and proper training.
But if the child growing up is not use to doing chores around the house, or if it was not emphasized the importance as a youth, then trying to get them to do these little things when they get a little older can be a problem.

Child Parenting vs. Teen Parenting pt.2

are u smarter than a 5th grader...

Child Parenting vs. Teen parenting pt. 2.

It feels good as a parent to sit down with your child, and help them with their homework…

the first few years is great, watching your child put their first sentences together…however,

what happens when your child advances in school, and they bring home, homework that’s

above your comprehension because you left school, for what ever reason. What

you do when your child needs help with math, or reading and sits there frustrated because they do not understand. 

In one scenario, the child can become discouraged, and maybe even drop out

of school in the near future, in which we see too many times…in another scenario, the child can excel, overcome the odds, become college grads, and do great things with their lives.

The question I pose is;

Would your child resent you if you can’t help them with their homework when they ask for help?